Tuesday, July 27, 2010

To Wear Charity

Sometimes you read something that you wish you had written yourself,  that happened to me earlier today:

"In 2004, I left the streets of New York City for the shores of West Africa. I'd made my living for years in the big Apple promoting top nightclubs and fashion events, for the most part living selfishly and arrogantly. Desperately unhappy, I needed to change. Faced with spiritual bankruptcy, I wanted desperately to revive a lost Christian faith with action and asked the question: What would the opposite of my life look like?

I signed up for volunteer service aboard a floating hospital with a group called Mercy Ships, a humanitarian organization which offered free medical care in the world's poorest nations. Operating on surgery ships, they'd built a 25-year track record of astonishing results yet I'd never heard of them.

Top doctors and surgeons from all over the world left their practices and fancy lives to operate for free on thousands who had no access to medical care. I soon found the organization to be full of remarkable people. The chief medical officer was a surgeon who left Los Angeles to volunteer for two weeks - 23 years ago. He never looked or went back. I took the position of ship photojournalist, and immediately traveled to Africa. At first, being the Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's court felt strange. I traded my spacious midtown loft for a 150-square-foot cabin with bunk beds, roommates and cockroaches. Fancy restaurants were replaced by a mess hall feeding 400+ Army style. A prince in New York, now I was living in close community with 350 others. I felt like a pauper.

But once off the ship, I realized how good I really had it. In new surroundings, I was utterly astonished at the poverty that came into focus through my camera lens. Often through tears, I documented life and human suffering I'd thought unimaginable. In West Africa, I was a prince again. A king, in fact. A man with a bed and clean running water and food in my stomach.

I fell in love with Liberia - a country with no public electricity, running water or sewage - Spending time in a leper colony and many remote villages, I put a face to the world's 1.2 billion living in poverty. Those living on less than $365 a year - money I used to blow on a bottle of Grey Goose vodka at a fancy club. Before tip.

Our medical staff would hold patient intake "screenings" and thousands would wait in line to be seen, many afflicted with deformities even Clive Barker hadn't thought of. Enormous, suffocating tumors - cleft lips, faces eaten by bacteria from water-borne diseases. I learned many of these medical conditions also existed here in the west, but were taken care of - never allowed to progress. The amount of blind people without access to the 20-minute cataract surgery that could restore their sight astonished me - all part of this new world.

Over the next eight months, I met patients who taught me the meaning of courage. Many of them had been slowly suffocating to death for years and yet pressing on. Praying, hoping, surviving. It was an honor to photograph them. It was an honor to know them.

Charity.

For me, charity is practical. It's sometimes easy, more often inconvenient, but always necessary. It's the ability to use one's position of influence, relative wealth and power to affect lives for the better. charity is singular and achievable.

There's a biblical parable about a man beaten near death by robbers. He's stripped naked and lying roadside. Most people pass him by, but one man stops. He picks him up and bandages his wounds. He puts him on his horse and walks alongside until they reach an inn. He checks him in and throws down his Amex. "Whatever he needs until he gets better."

Because he could.

The dictionary defines charity as simply the act of giving voluntarily to those in need. It's taken from the word "caritas," or simply, love. In Colossians 3, the Bible instructs readers to "put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness."

Although I'm still not sure what that means, I love the idea. To wear charity."
-Scott Harrison (Founder of Charity Water)

I hope I can find a way to wear charity as well as Scott has!

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Being Kind: the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain)

I drive the same route home from work most days. I know I should probably vary my routine, change it to throw a stalker off but I don’t. At the first robots I turn right, then carry on straight, then left, then cross the stop street where the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain) stands, turn right, turn left, turn right, turn right again and then arrive at my home.

Some days though, I stop at the man who is always selling roses, and buy a dozen. Even if I don’t stop, we smile and wave at each other, (in fact he smiles and waves at everyone but I like to think it’s just for me), we’ve been doing this for years, 3 years actually: selling roses, buying roses, smiling, waving.

Yesterday I stopped at the stop street where the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain) stands and told him I’d like to buy some. I pulled off the road and proceeded to hunt for my wallet. I couldn’t find it. I hunted some more. Still no money to pay for the two dozen roses I wanted to buy. I told the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain) that I didn’t have the money, that I would stop and buy some tomorrow.

I expected him to walk away back to his spot by the stop street but he didn’t. He told me to take a bunch anyway and pay him tomorrow. I didn’t know what to say, just earlier that day I’d read a blog by Natalie Grant where she said, “Start being kind for no reason. Show compassion. Be patient. I promise you people will notice. And it just might be contagious.” I wondered if it was true. I thought it probably was but now the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain) was living it, I was noticing, and I was floored by his kindness.

If you had to ask me to tell you one thing which has really changed my view of God in the last year, I would tell you it’s realising that God is Kindness. You may think I’m not being very theologically sound here but I think I am. The bible says, “God is love” (1 John 4:8). The Bible also says, “love is kind…” (1 Corinthians 13:4), Therefore, God is Kind. God is just like the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain) waiting to floor us with kindness when we least expect it.

Then if we were to continue the conversation and you were to ask me how discovering God is kind has changed me I would tell you that it’s made me more like the man who is always selling roses (even in the rain). It’s made me kinder to people. I don’t snap at people anymore when they interrupt my work day, I smile at children and let people into traffic. I’ve begun to notice the hundreds of times a day others are kind to me. I don’t think I have to win everything or feel I have to prove something, I’ve learnt that sometime it’s better to be kind then to be right. I’ve realised sometimes just being kind is the best way to stand out, the best way to let someone else notice that God is kind.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Wow...

This morning I was reading the bible and came across this really well-worn verse. You know it, you probably learnt to recite it in Sunday school and have probably forgotten how good it tasted at first bite.

I certainly had...

"Love your Enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will be acting as children of the most high, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked." (Luke 6:35)

Just let it sink in. One phrase at a time. Go back and read it again. Really, read it again!

That one little verse goes against everything we (or maybe just I) live out everyday. Do you really love your enemies and do good to them? Are you prepared to give something/do something for them and expect nothing in return? We're all about what we can get, what we can do for ourselves and how we can protect ourselves and then the Jesus (who likes us a lot) comes and whispers, "Love your enemy. Treat them better than your best friend...come on...surprise them by looking like me!"

I love how the verse switches into who we are (children of the most high). I know it makes me want to live like one, it makes me want to go and make some enemies just so I can love them...

Then this verse, which I am just rediscovering again, how unending and gracefulled and amazing God is that he would love people like me, people who are unthankful and wicked. Wow...

Monday, July 5, 2010

Diski Democracy

Just read a great post by John Ellis about what he thinks the future of South Africa might look like. I hope it's a glimpse of what heaven might look like too...

Read it here

Rushing through Life

I was in a rush today.
I had no reason to be in a rush.
Maybe I was just being Western.
He said, "Wendy, I need your help please"
I thought, "I really don't have time now,
hope he makes it quick."
Then I slowed down and thought,
'Really, don't you even have 5 minutes?'
So I stopped.
Turns out he wanted me to deposit some money at the bank.
Turns out I could do it online.
Turns out I could help this man even while I was in a rush.

My boyfriend needed me to give him a lift.
I was in a rush.
I had no reason to be in a rush.
Maybe I was just being selfish.